i'd be more inclined to believe that women were truly threatened by men if they didn't coddle and run interference for the most dangerous ones while simultaneously throwing up the image of the most dangerous ones as a way to bop the not-so-dangerous ones over the head.
reread that paragraph if it didn't make sense at first.
moving on...
that beacon of wisdom and light debra cooper recently did an hour long radio show along with a 5 point program instructing women on the who, what, when, where, how and why of getting with the most dangerous elements of our community. now this same heifer will get on the internet and with a straight face pretend that the black accountant with the sweater vest "can be just as abusive".
it's really hard to take people seriously when they don't even attempt to make their lies believable. ________________
I wish Gen-X had a "thumbs up" button...This was pure gold
I always get mixed up between jadeissback and divine brown, but in jadeisbacks case I cant front I actually agree with what she is saying i am asking myself the same questions that she asked, I personally think people should avoid giving out certain personal information on here the kid thing is too touchy who here gives of the impression that they are open to speaking about something like that on a mature level?
thats just it you do not know because its the internet ya need to save them kind of convos for ya partner I wouldn't dare delve into it any more than what has been said here but then thats just me with a bit of decorum, this is the wrong site to come to as anyone (least of all a black woman) and show emotions that people can play on certain info about myself will never touch the online community its just simply not a good idea and not sensible.
I do not like the term alpha men either its just been distorted just like the "good black man" or "on point black man" title and it means different things to different people and everyone is giving their own freestyle twist to it like a Just blaze instrumental ya even have black men who all once called themselves on point arguing about whats on point so that should tell you how meaningless these titles are.
I have learnt that a persons life should not to be judged and defined on what someone has but what they have sacrificed.
WELL..it certainly sounds good to say.....men should just deal with our attitudes..however in your special relationships no one should have to deal with someones attitude...I know I'm not...LOL..
i can understand you at some point was hurt its evident ...however in order to move on and maybe trust again you got to let that shit go.....YEAH SOME NIGGAS ANIT SHIT...trust me i know...however if they're not on your level you need to learn how to keep it moving......
and i wouldn't have wasted anytime responding to certain men on this site.....ALL TALK NO ACTION...LOL.....
and if the only reason why you got a divorce was because you didn't want kids ? because I'm sure you knew before you married him that you didn't want kids...at least thats how you sound like you NEVER wanted kids? you don't think that was selfish...you say you like Alpha men? you weren't confident that he would have been a good provider? just wondering what kind of men you like...what level? cause you said you love struggling with your man.....????? WTH? holla at me when the struggle is over........IM JUST SAYING.........you flip flop a lot .......but i here you....
I want to know WHY black men keep going back to white women, yet can't seem to make it work. Because apparently their over their for the exact opposite reason you have mentioned. The personalities over on the otherside are more pleasant.
-----
It's called conditioning.
In American society, most people are condition to see white people as individuals, but see people of color - especially black people - as a whole group.
That's why in a lot of cases, when a black man/woman gets with the opposite genre of their race, and that person does them wrong, they swear off and blame the entire gender for doing them wrong.
However, when a black man/woman gets with a white person and they do them wrong, they only see that white person as being an asshole, not the entire race.
Simply put, black American's suffer from the same white privilege thinking, white people have created.
You know:
Black man rapes woman = all black men are rapist. White man rapes woman = only THAT person was a rapist.
I can agree with you also to an extent. I think that she was Kongfu'd. Sargewp asked for her response. He specifically asked her to respond to his video bashing black women. Why? Woman are always attacked on this site. Not by all the men, but definitely by most. I don't recommend any woman who is not looking for drama to post videos on this site expecting dialogue. Especially if they are at all emotionally invested. I don't recommend any woman to reveal personal aspects of her life only to be attack by men who are looking for reasons to justify hating black women. I agree that some of her statements were ridiculous and I don't agree with them. She should have kept them to herself is my point. You could tell from her first video where her mind is and that's why I believe she was specifically asked to respond.
I agree to an extent that on this site there are many men who either have a blind hatred for black women and/or attempt to bait the "civil" ones who want an honest dialougue, in order to get a rise out of them so they can attack them...That's happened to me quite a few times as well.
However, *those* men are typically the "dickriders" not the regular vloggers (which isn't to say that *every* man who only submits comments & has no video up here is a dickrider, but some of them here are.)
From what I've heard in their audio files (because I didn't listen to them in their entirety) neither sarge nor soulnblack were *trying* to get a rise out of this woman nor were they being a prick to her...She just responded emotionally because she didn't like what they had to say & she's projecting her personal experiences into the debate.
I'm sorry, but ANY grown person, who comes into ANY forum & says something as *blatantly* stupid as
"Most black men are in jail" or "If a woman has an attitude just deal with it and be with her"
does not garner much of my sympathy, and should be told that those statements & perceptions ARE STUPID, and going through life with those mentalities will get one nowhere FAST, especially in one's romantic life.
And I'm not trying to make her feel worse than how she may already feel. She's said herself that some people would call her "bitchy" and she really thinks that a man has some obligation to "deal with an attitude" & "put out fires" with his intimate partner all of the time.
That kind of mentality does nothing but repel desirable & decent men and attract toxic abusive ones who love to argue & "win" said arguements with physical force.
Well then someone's personality is obviously not a deterrent in you dealing with them if that's the case. Physical attraction seems to trump personality in most cases. I think that's what you're implying.
Sis, what possessed you to post videos on this site, showing yourself no less? I've seen nothing but women (including the white woman Home School Mom) be harassed and tricked on here. You were baited into responding so you could be attacked. Do you see any other women on here trying to dialogue with these men? I was attacked on this site for asking a question when I first came to this country to go to school. I realized then that this is a site comprised mostly of men who hate women, but most specifically black women. Of course we need a sisterhood. Most of these men have a problem with black and brown skin on women. They use all of these other issues to mask that. They trick women like yourself into speaking out and then they use you as a poster child for the reasons they hate black women. You were used. No matter what you would have said, you would have been attacked. Most of the men on this site hate women. Telling them personal aspects of your life was the worst thing you could ever do and it will be used to prove that black women should be left to burn. They have said they want to see black women die off so they can have a brown community. I just listen and learn. Never comment or make videos on here.
